1. Everything happens for a reason
The first thing I've learnt is , whether it's good or bad, everything happens for a reason. Especially the bad. I think that everything we qualify as a bad experience or a bad memory is actually an asset you can decide to use efficiently or not. Most of the time, it represents an opportunity to make a real change in your life, to take real action, measures and to reassess yourself. Within every bad experiences hide at least one virtue that can change it all. And sometimes, this is what it takes to make a real change in your life and for the best. If everything were perfectly fine in your life, you would have less chances to question yourself and improve.
2. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life
Some people come into your life and some people were simply not meant to stay. Big new, that's what we call life. Every person you have met along your path, good or bad; have necessarily brought you something. This person may have taught you a life lesson, helped you figure out what you want and what you don't want in life. This person was maybe the intermediary between you and another person you were happy to meet. You just have to take the best in each relationship in order to help you improve yourself.
3. People will judge
No matter what you do, what you say, people will judge. This is just a human thing to do, BUT as we say,- don't take anything personally especially with people you are not personal with - Now that you know that not everyone will have something nice to say about what you do, think or wear, why not doing it without giving a sh** about it? Do it for yourself and haters are gonna hate, right.
4. Expect nothing, appreciate everything
This is the best way to be disspatointed. I've learnt that if you start to wait for people to do something or act a certain way, trust me, they won't. So, it depends on the situation, but you can decide to just appreciate what this person is giving back to you in return.And if you don't have anything in return, you can decide that it's ok but be aware of that and act differently toward this person in the future. You don't have to be drastic about it, but you can adjust what you give. Still, it depends on the person,but if at the end of the day, you don't share the same values with that person, you can also sever all contacts.
5. Things are never as bad as we expect
We often dramatize everything and especially the things that we apprehend the most. We tend to worked up to much about events we don't want to go to or things we are afraid to do. The good news is that this is never as bad as we expect and sometimes this can be pleasantly surprising. So, my tip is try not to overthink about the future and don't make scenarios, you never know how things will turn out.
6. Almost every problem has its solution
This point goes along with the previous one. Every time you apprehend something, try to consider the worst case scenario (Dad's advice :) ). First of all, this will allow you to consider a second plan if Plan A didn't go as you expected and second of all, you will probably realize that every worst case has its solution. Don't stress too much about the unexpected because you can always figure it out.
7. Don't count too much on people
This point completes the one " Expect nothing, appreciate everything". I've learnt that you can only count on yourself (and your family). Don't count too much on people to help you, to support you, to encourage you or to show you some gratitude. Ok I'm saying that from a negative perspective. Of course, there are some people you can always count on and who will be there for you no matter what, but let's face it, they are rare. So the moral of the story is to not count too much on people.
8. Nothing lasts forever
"The good news is : nothing lasts forever. The bad news is : nothing lasts forever". If you are having a hard time lately, just know that it will pass and that the calm comes after the storm. This also means that during the good times, you have to be grateful for what you currently have and when things don't go as planned, try to relativize and eventually, everything will turn out for the best.
9. Learn to say no
Try to know what's best for you, and sometimes it only means learning to say no. Don't try to say yes to please everyone because you can't. Some people will say no to you without any hesitation, so sometimes try to put your wellbeing first as well.
10. Consistency is key
Apparently it takes 21 days for a person to adapt itself to a new habit. Only 21 days where you have to force yourself to be consistent if you want to bring a change into your life. Taking good habits is key, because every "bad decision" you will make will somehow create your lifestyle. And in order to take actions from the resolutions you set for yourself, you have to push your limits for sure. Remember 21 days.
11. Don't take anything too seriously
I've definitely learnt to stop taking things too seriously. Too many things are just not important enough to take it too seriously. Let go on things, have fun in doing things you like, don't overthink,don't overstress, just take it easy. Live your life plenty, and nothing drives more people crazy then seeing you happy.
12. Life isn't perfect
Accept the fact that nothing always goes as planned, that some people will disappoint you but you will meet great people too, that some people change, situations move, friendships ends and new ones are born, you will make mistakes but learn from them. You will have hard times but there will be moments you wish you could stop time, you will live uncomfortable situations but people will forget, you will live bad experiences but you will learn to live with it. Remember that the good comes along with the bad.